I’m wondering why there is not a whole lot of publications on this, for me a cause of much agony and anxiety. Among all the myths a woman has to endure and live with, very few attention or splitting of views is given on the choice to have one or more kid.
I’m standing at the crossroad, knowing this decision is inadvertently the most important one for my whole life and trying to lay out a good foundation for argument. As the maternal instinct pushes, all the for votes go side by side with the conventional wisdom. One child is too lonely, too possessive, selfish and a sibling can change the equation like no others. Plus the benefit of having another person to love, needless to say to be conforming to the majority of multiple-kid families categories.
However, when I look the past four years of my motherhood, the most prominent feeling passing the glory and joy of loving a child, is really how much the “woman” behind the “mom” has been altered, my career had to take a setback, personal development impeded, most of all, a sense of feeling your own person, not a diminutive “mini” person living in a big shell of “mom” has to take a back seat.
For me, I see that little person is trying so hard to come out of the shell, and finally the curve is heading up from the slump. Having a second child means to push me back again, physically, emotionally, intellectually, economically, the more I think about it, the more I see the road divided right at this junction. I love my son wholeheartedly and he will remain my sole devotion, and he will realize having mommy being a whole person is probably more important than having a sibling to play with.
Friends and family, your opinions are welcomed and appreciated, like I say, let the great debate start…..
